6/3 Ego Projector

In Human Design it’s very common to refer to yourself by a series of numbers and words that help people understand something about who you are.

This phrase (as you can see in the title) has three parts:

* Your “Profile” (the numbers that talk to your character),

* Your “Inner Authority” (how you’re designed to make decisions), and

* Your “Type” (how your aura or energy field influences your day-to-day behaviour).

Together these three things tell us quite a lot about you and are a really good starting point for your journey into Human Design. In this post, I'm going to break each part down for you so you can start to make sense of this jargon and do something useful with it!

The most important things to learn about your Profile as a 6/3 very much depends on the age you are as you read this. It also depends on how well you were supported to be your authentic self as a child. So, for this short introductory blog post, I’m going to share some points in small chunks so you can grab the bit that feels most relevant to you. Ready?

Overview: Traditionally known as the “Role Model/Martyr”, you’re here to experience a lot, a lot, a lot in your lifetime and ultimately become an extremely wise role model for the rest of us.

You get better and better with age (like a good wine!), but it’s essential that you learn how to pull the lessons out of your many (weird and wild) experiences and not shame yourself for the things you didn’t get “right” the first (or fifth!) time.

If you had a very challenging childhood where you were criticised for the many mistakes you made and told any version of you’re ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘broken’, then the way to improve your life at any age is to heal your shame. You’re not broken. You are supposed to learn things the hard way. That was your path in this life.

Phrases about your life that might resonate if this was your experience:

Chaos. Crazy. Messed up. F*cked up. I break things. I can’t stick with anything. Nothing ever works. Too hard. What the f*ck?!?! School of hard knocks. Figuring things out eventually. Trying to fail forward. Trying to learn from my mistakes. Trying to see the bigger meaning behind everything I’ve lived through.

If reading any or all of these phrases or words make you feel like I’m inside your head or have been a fly on the wall in your life, the next three paragraphs are the recommendations I have for you to make your life work a bit better moving forward. (And if they don’t resonate, then you can skip down further in this post to the next set of italicised words).

If you’re a young adult up to age 29 (ish): You’re learning through doing, and it’s supposed to be messy. Learn how to embrace the chaos, laugh at the messiness of life, and roll with the punches. Please know that life will settle down a little as you slide into your 30s. As this transition happens, it may feel completely weird; it’s supposed to feel very different. There’s nothing wrong, you’re just slowing down.

If you’re in your 30s or 40s: Prioritise healing your wounds, your pains and any hidden shame. This is your peak time to reflect, integrate and gain a bigger perspective on the many experiences you’ve had and mine them for gold! But to do that, you have to heal your precious heart, mind and soul, and as many of the things you’ve been through as you possibly can.

This would be a very good time to learn and master a healing tool so that you can deliberately work through the crap you’ve been through. Please know that the more diligent you are during this healing phase, the more likely you’ll be able to do the thing you came to Earth to do.

If you’re in your 50s or older: This is the time designated for you to be a role model for the rest of us and to show us what it really looks like to be yourself. But this may feel impossible if you haven’t healed your painful past. What do they say?

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” So, if you’re alive and breathing, it is not too late. Start now and know that the more you actively care for your tender self, the better role model you’ll be for those around you who are ready and waiting to learn from you.

If you were well supported to be your weird and wild self in childhood, then you’re still going to be on a crazy, adventurous ride, but it’s probably not anywhere near as painful as your 6/3 siblings above have had to endure. But you are still going to have (or have had) more experiences in the first 30 years of your life than most people have in an entire lifetime!

Phrases about your life that might resonate if your childhood felt pretty safe and you were allowed to be yourself:

Adventurous. Epic. Wild. Crazy. Awesome. Many experiences. Many jobs. Many lovers. Many friends. Many lessons. I fail forward fast, and it’s my greatest strength! There are no mistakes, only learning opportunities. My sense of humour is my saving grace.

If those words resonate with you, then this is wonderful news. There’s a good chance your parents did an exceptional job with a kid who was born with a challenging life path! If you got off to a great start, that’s so great and here’s how you can make your life even better…

If you’re a young adult, anywhere up to age 29 ish: Lean into the craziness. Embrace the chaos. Let yourself make and break as many bonds (with friends, lovers, jobs, business, etc) as you need to in order to stay true to yourself.

If you’re in your 30s or 40s: This is your “settling down” time, where you withdraw from the messiness of the world and become more reflective. Now is the time to observe humanity without getting so involved (you still will from time to time, just nowhere near as much as in your youth), to integrate your experiences, heal any trauma caused by broken trust, accidents or misadventures, and through that process become more objective.

You can expect people to start to ask your advice far more often from about 30 onwards. And this will only increase over time, especially if you’re very diligent about healing and integrating.

If you’re in your 50s or older: It’s Role Model time, baby! Around age 50, you’ll get pulled back into life and all its busyness, and it will be your time to shine. You may feel reluctant to lead, but you have an absolute gold mine of wisdom and stories for days. So lead in whatever way feels authentic to you, knowing that the most important ‘job’ you can do is to be yourself unapologetically.

This is the time when you finally get to share the valuable wisdom you’ve been accruing your whole life. When you get to share with people what does and doesn’t work when it comes to life’s biggest challenges. Expect to spend the rest of your days being an example that the rest of us can look up to because you did the work to become the most perfect version of you that you can be.

Everyone has a way to make decisions in their life that will lead to the best outcomes. Contrary to popular belief, we're not all designed to do this the same way.

Some people were born to make fast decisions, others to make them more slowly. Some people need to talk out the possible options and for others that will just confuse them.

No single way is better or worse than any other. They all have their place and what you were born with is exactly what you needed to live out your potential.

In Human Design, your Inner Authority is one of the biggest puzzle pieces for how you specifically can make the best decisions in this life. Keep reading to get to know your innate decision-making process better.

Ego is one of the terms in Human Design that gets a lot of pushback from newbies but it’s useful once you get how your decision-making process works. This Inner Authority tells us that you’re in the tiny group of people who are designed to make decisions based on what you want.

Let me repeat that in case it seems too obvious: You're designed to make decisions based on what you want.

See, it might seem obvious to you but it’s not the way most of us are designed to make decisions. Also, many societies view the speaking of our desires so clearly to be, well, egotistical. But the only way you know what’s right for you is if you let yourself express what you want and what you don’t want.