6/3 Reflector

Hello, Love! If you’ve landed on this page I’m going to guess you’re pretty new to this whole Human Design world.

It’s got lots of new language that can be pretty confusing, so let’s talk through what these things mean in a simple, yet empowering way. If that sounds good to you then let’s dive in ☺️

The most important things to learn about your Profile as a 6/3 very much depends on the age you are as you read this. It also depends on how well you were supported to be your authentic self as a child. So, for this short introductory blog post, I’m going to share some points in small chunks so you can grab the bit that feels most relevant to you. Ready?

Overview: Traditionally known as the “Role Model/Martyr”, you’re here to experience a lot, a lot, a lot in your lifetime and ultimately become an extremely wise role model for the rest of us.

You get better and better with age (like a good wine!), but it’s essential that you learn how to pull the lessons out of your many (weird and wild) experiences and not shame yourself for the things you didn’t get “right” the first (or fifth!) time.

If you had a very challenging childhood where you were criticised for the many mistakes you made and told any version of you’re ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘broken’, then the way to improve your life at any age is to heal your shame. You’re not broken. You are supposed to learn things the hard way. That was your path in this life.

Phrases about your life that might resonate if this was your experience:

Chaos. Crazy. Messed up. F*cked up. I break things. I can’t stick with anything. Nothing ever works. Too hard. What the f*ck?!?! School of hard knocks. Figuring things out eventually. Trying to fail forward. Trying to learn from my mistakes. Trying to see the bigger meaning behind everything I’ve lived through.

If reading any or all of these phrases or words make you feel like I’m inside your head or have been a fly on the wall in your life, the next three paragraphs are the recommendations I have for you to make your life work a bit better moving forward. (And if they don’t resonate, then you can skip down further in this post to the next set of italicised words).

If you’re a young adult up to age 29 (ish): You’re learning through doing, and it’s supposed to be messy. Learn how to embrace the chaos, laugh at the messiness of life, and roll with the punches. Please know that life will settle down a little as you slide into your 30s. As this transition happens, it may feel completely weird; it’s supposed to feel very different. There’s nothing wrong, you’re just slowing down.

If you’re in your 30s or 40s: Prioritise healing your wounds, your pains and any hidden shame. This is your peak time to reflect, integrate and gain a bigger perspective on the many experiences you’ve had and mine them for gold! But to do that, you have to heal your precious heart, mind and soul, and as many of the things you’ve been through as you possibly can.

This would be a very good time to learn and master a healing tool so that you can deliberately work through the crap you’ve been through. Please know that the more diligent you are during this healing phase, the more likely you’ll be able to do the thing you came to Earth to do.

If you’re in your 50s or older: This is the time designated for you to be a role model for the rest of us and to show us what it really looks like to be yourself. But this may feel impossible if you haven’t healed your painful past. What do they say?

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” So, if you’re alive and breathing, it is not too late. Start now and know that the more you actively care for your tender self, the better role model you’ll be for those around you who are ready and waiting to learn from you.

If you were well supported to be your weird and wild self in childhood, then you’re still going to be on a crazy, adventurous ride, but it’s probably not anywhere near as painful as your 6/3 siblings above have had to endure. But you are still going to have (or have had) more experiences in the first 30 years of your life than most people have in an entire lifetime!

Phrases about your life that might resonate if your childhood felt pretty safe and you were allowed to be yourself:

Adventurous. Epic. Wild. Crazy. Awesome. Many experiences. Many jobs. Many lovers. Many friends. Many lessons. I fail forward fast, and it’s my greatest strength! There are no mistakes, only learning opportunities. My sense of humour is my saving grace.

If those words resonate with you, then this is wonderful news. There’s a good chance your parents did an exceptional job with a kid who was born with a challenging life path! If you got off to a great start, that’s so great and here’s how you can make your life even better…

If you’re a young adult, anywhere up to age 29 ish: Lean into the craziness. Embrace the chaos. Let yourself make and break as many bonds (with friends, lovers, jobs, business, etc) as you need to in order to stay true to yourself.

If you’re in your 30s or 40s: This is your “settling down” time, where you withdraw from the messiness of the world and become more reflective. Now is the time to observe humanity without getting so involved (you still will from time to time, just nowhere near as much as in your youth), to integrate your experiences, heal any trauma caused by broken trust, accidents or misadventures, and through that process become more objective.

You can expect people to start to ask your advice far more often from about 30 onwards. And this will only increase over time, especially if you’re very diligent about healing and integrating.

If you’re in your 50s or older: It’s Role Model time, baby! Around age 50, you’ll get pulled back into life and all its busyness, and it will be your time to shine. You may feel reluctant to lead, but you have an absolute gold mine of wisdom and stories for days. So lead in whatever way feels authentic to you, knowing that the most important ‘job’ you can do is to be yourself unapologetically.

This is the time when you finally get to share the valuable wisdom you’ve been accruing your whole life. When you get to share with people what does and doesn’t work when it comes to life’s biggest challenges. Expect to spend the rest of your days being an example that the rest of us can look up to because you did the work to become the most perfect version of you that you can be.

Those who are in the group known as Reflectors are rare creatures indeed. Just over 1% of the world’s population is like you. This can be a bit of a challenge if you live in a society that expects you to behave like everyone else.

You’re not like everyone else. You are, however, a mirror for everyone else. Your name is a reminder that you are reflecting people back to themselves. You reflect the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s an interesting, ever-changing experience for you.

You’re never the same from day to day. You behave differently around different people and in different environments you’ll do different things. This is normal for you. This is perfect for you. This is what you’re here for, to sample the breadth and depth of humanity.

Amazing, hey? You literally get to taste all of life in a way that none of the rest of us ever will.

Note: The way to stay healthy–physically, mentally and emotionally–is to ensure you regularly spend time with people who truly love you, to take as long as you need to make decisions and to commune with nature and all her glory as a normal part of your ongoing self-care.

If you've been talking to anyone else of any other Human Design Type you will have noticed that they have a third part to their HD title. The middle part of their HD name refers to how they're designed to make decisions. Since all Reflectors are designed to make decisions the same way, including it in your name is unnecessary.

But since I've included a brief explanation for everyone else it only seems fair that I sneak it in for you too ;)

On your Human Design chart, it may say the words "Inner Authority" and "None". It depends where you got your chart from but these terms 100% apply to you as a Reflector.

Inner Authority is a specific piece of Human Design jargon that points people to where exactly in the body they need to pay attention to help them make correct decisions.

Not-so-helpfully, with a label like "None" it can sound like, as a Reflector, you have nowhere in your body to pay attention to in order to be guided to your best decisions. And it's sort of true, but given that I constantly remind people that they are the authority on their own life and to pay attention to their body wisdom, this HD wording (of "None") can leave newbies feeling a little bit lost or lacking something important.

You aren't lacking anything important. Your body is made up of all the same stuff as the rest of us, it's just that your process for making decisions is a little different to the rest of us. (Like everything about you, my love!)

Looking at your Human Design Strategy is actually more useful for you. That is, "Wait a Lunar Cycle". Before you make any decisions about anything important wait. Wait as long as you can - ideally a whole cycle of the moon. And if the decision feels ginormous, maybe wait two.

Yes, I know that can sound bonkers if you're hearing that for the first time ever. But you will truly make the best decisions if you can slooooooooow the hecccccccccccccck down!